A Complete File

A lot has happened in the last 6 months. In March,we FINALLY got the document that we had been waiting on for over a year. Of course this took many trips to the court and “I’ll have it tomorrow”, “I’ll have it next week”, “I need another week”… After that, it was time for our attorney to go back to IBESR with all the documents that were missing from our file. After weeks of planned (and canceled) meetings, meetings with people who decided she needed to have a meeting with someone else, and meetings where they would not even accept our documents, they finally took them. They let her know that there were some more documents they wanted updated. This required Mathieu to meet with a social worker along with his bio dad. Oh yeah, and they needed to be there in less than 48 hours. We hadn’t had contact with his dad in over a year, and we had heard that he no longer had a phone and had moved. God provided miracle after miracle. A friend who knew Mathieu’s dad was able to track him down in that short amount of time. He agreed to meet the social worker the next day with Mathieu AND they arrived EARLY!

Our attorney took those documents to IBESR. Then they decided his medical records needed to be updated. Each time the medical records were turned in, they decided there were a few more things that needed to be checked. Mathieu had at least 3 doctor appointments to get blood drawn each time they decided they needed something additional.

Finally, in early July, IBESR had everything they needed. I have been told that our file has now moved to the legal department within IBESR. Apparently we can expect it to be there for 3-4 months. It made it there in July but many people take off for the summer, so our attorney said it probably hasn’t made it any further, but it is a good sign that they haven’t asked for anything else. We are just glad for progress. We’ve also still been able to keep in touch with Mathieu, so we have enjoyed seeing his pictures and getting to talk to him occasionally.

Oh, and in the middle of all this, Peyton and I had to have our fingerprints updated (again!) We aren’t trying to give each other moose ears in the picture. It is a “5” for the 5th time we’ve gotten our fingerprints done. 5th time’s a charm? Maybe! We also have pictures of Mathieu with his bio dad, on a moto going to the doctor, and picture before church today.


Visit with Mathieu

We just recently got back from a visit to Haiti to see Mathieu. We didn’t have any courts to see, papers to sign, or any “business” to handle. We just wanted to go see him and let him know we are still trying and we still love him so much. It had been almost a year since we saw him. Yes, another year. The years seem to pass by like months now. It’s hard to believe that in February, we will have been walking this path for 5 years. This adoption wasn’t in our plan, and it hasn’t gone like we would have chosen it to go. But while we were in Haiti, I told Peyton that how much more fun is God’s plan for us than what we plan ourselves. We wouldn’t have been making multiple trips to a 3rd world country, renting a car (yes, I drove this time!), “trying” to learn a new language, and buying street food if Mathieu wasn’t part of God’s plan for us. We would probably still be trying to work our way up the corporate ladder to see how much money we could make. And for what? A bigger house, a newer car, and more stuff?

The adoption process in Haiti has recently gotten even more complicated. Laws have changed on both the Haitian and US side, and now the US is causing delays and scrutinizing paperwork. Many families have made it through years of struggle and paperwork in Haiti to only be told at the very end that the US won’t issue a visa for the child to come home due to one word in their paperwork. Adoptions have been done this way for years, but now the US decides it can’t work that way any longer and they gave no warning of the change. We met with our attorney early in our trip, who I believe is probably one of the best attorneys in Haiti and is doing everything she can to get Mathieu home. Basically, we are still and have been waiting 6 months for one document to be signed. She had to correct this document when she took over our file last year. Apparently the only person who can sign has been out of the office lately. We are praying he signs when he is back tomorrow. Once we have this document, she can then go to court to see what we can do so that our paperwork won’t be denied a visa at the end of the process. She was very frustrated with the process and the way the system works and isn’t even sure how we are going to work this out. She is so perplexed herself. But she is confident we will still get this adoption completed; it’s just going to take more and more time.

Of course after this meeting, I had a breakdown. I told Peyton that this is all it’s ever going to be, us going to visit Mathieu, but he’ll never be home. He said even if that is the case, it’s more than Mathieu had before. Which is true. Since the point of our trip was to spend time with Mathieu, we were determined not to let the process get us down. We wanted to enjoy our time there.

We had an absolute fabulous time in Haiti and spending very special quality time with Mathieu. We were able to be at the Children’s Home when he would get home from school, help him with his homework, play with the other kids he lives with, give them a pizza party, and go to church with him. We are so thankful for that time. We even were able to work on teaching him to swim! We wouldn’t trade this precious time for anything. He was also able to FaceTime with some of our friends and family. He told us multiple times, “Thank you for loving me.” What do you say to that? On the last day, we took him to meet our attorney so that she could see who she’s fighting for. We explained to him that we are working so hard on the papers so that he can come home with us. We promised him we would be back soon for him and that we aren’t going to leave him. We told him to pray everyday that God will bring us together. We pray for that everyday, and He will bring us together. Bondye bon tout tan. (God is good all the time.) He just kept shaking his head, “yes.”

God is good all the time. We don’t understand this story, and maybe we never will. But we know He is good. He is faithful. So whatever the next chapters hold for us as a family, we are believing that nothing is out of God’s control, and everything is working together for our good and His glory. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it just honestly sucks most days to continue life as normal without Mathieu, to miss out on him growing up, to not be able to hold him and kiss him and tell him good night, to walk by his empty bedroom that’s been waiting on him, and to feel our heart being ripped out every time we have to leave. And yes, it even feels like God has forgotten us at times. But we know that’s not true and for now we wait and trust Him. Because isn’t His story so much better for us than the one we plan ourselves?


A Quiet Year

I know we have been quiet for the past year. Honestly, there hasn’t been anything to say but more lies, broken promises, and heartbreak. Just because we have been quiet doesn’t mean we weren’t still fighting everyday doing everything we knew to do to try to get Mathieu home. We were reaching out to anybody and everybody who said they could help with any kind of connection to Haiti. One person was recommended by two separate people, so we thought that had to be a good contact. We spoke almost daily back in the spring. We had a plan drawn out, and things were progressing along. Then after a few weeks, it was like she vanished. She, and her contacts in Haiti, stopped answering phone calls, texts, and emails. We have still yet to hear back from her. Again, we were left confused, heart-broken, and frustrated. We had been praying for two years for God to send us someone who would fight for us, work hard for us, and someone we could trust. Why wasn’t He answering our prayers?

I can’t remember exactly, but I think it was around July/August or maybe even September that I was honestly ready to quit. I was angry at God. Why would He call us to something that he wasn’t going to finish or even help us with? It made no sense to me. Yes, He has used our story to change our life and grow us closer to Him and to impact many others, but I was having a hard time thinking that’s where it would end. I heard Him clearly say Mathieu was going to be our son. Why did it look like that was not going to happen?

That same day, God gave me soft whispers and confirmations that He didn’t leave us, and His promises are still true. He did this through a friend I hadn’t spoken to in years sending me a message out of the blue that she felt God laying us on her heart to pray for us, so she did. He did this through songs- in particularly the song by Matthew West, Do Something. The lyrics go like this…”I shook my fist at Heaven and said, God, why don’t you do something? He said, I did. I created you. If not us, then who. If not me and you. Right now, it’s time for us to do something. If not now, then when will we see an end to all this pain. It’s not enough to do nothing. It’s time for us to do something.” And He did this by showing me countless adoptive parents who went to Haiti to fight for their children and won. That was it. Our mission had started.

We figured out the soonest time we could go to Haiti with our work schedules, booked our trip for the first week in November, and started planning it out. We had NO idea what we were going to Haiti for. Yeah, we were fighting for Mathieu, but we had no idea what we were going to be able to do to make a difference. We don’t know the process, we don’t speak the language, and our lawyer is corrupt and had a stronghold over us. We just knew we were going. The month of October I spent talking to anyone who would hear me cry. Posting pleas on an adoption group on Facebook. Please, anyone. Help us. It got to a point where it was hard to keep straight who all I had spoken to and the next step that was to be taken with them. There was no way possible we were going to be able to meet with all these people I had spoken to while we were in Haiti, so our prayers began to be, God, show us who you want us to work with and weed out all the people who aren’t going to be able to give us help. (We had no time to waste on any path that was going to be unfruitful. A week is not a very long time to get things accomplished in Haiti.)

Before we left for Haiti, we had a room full of about 25 Smyrna friends come and pray for us and over us for this trip.photo We knew this trip could be very powerful if God showed up, and we so longed for His presence and mercies on this trip.

We also kept our family, closest friends (who feel like family), and supporters up-to-date with everything that was going on in Haiti via email so they could continue to pray. We know there were at least 60 people praying for us for specific details each day. We even had our trip covered in prayer for 24 hours a day. It was so unbelievable and humbling to see so many people care about us so much and willing to devote an hour a day to pray for us. Some of them really late at night and some really early in the morning.

The prayers worked. The whole week was miracle after miracle from God and answered prayers and more answered prayers. In the end, we were able to get our paperwork back from our corrupt attorney and able to find a real, true, legit lawyer to fight for us. God did answer our prayers that we had been praying for the past two years. It wasn’t in our timing or how we expected it to be, but He did answer them.

Our new attorney has taken over our file and is working hard on it. There are three original documents in our file that are missing (we only have the copies), and they actually need to be corrected also. She is working on those things now. We are waiting to get the first 2 documents corrected so that she can then work on the 3rd. We appreciate your prayers specifically for these documents to be corrected so that we can move forward.

We will go on Tuesday of next week to have our fingerprints taken again, for the 4th time. We are believing this is our year and our last time to get fingerprinted. Thank you all for your support. From your prayers, to helping us fundraise and buying our T-shirts and bracelets many years ago, to asking about the process, for those who have gone to Haiti and loved on Mathieu, and everything in between. We couldn’t have gotten through this without you.

Here are some pictures from our trip. At the all famous IBESR and with Mathieu and our translator, Robinson who was a HUGE advocate for us during the week.

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Happy Birthday




Yep, today was Mathieu’s 7th Birthday and yet another birthday that we aren’t together. This year was a bit harder than the last two, and I’m not sure why. We came in to the new year with a renewed spirit and hope and a lot of momentum with our adoption process. We still haven’t gotten anywhere though, and we truly believed we would have by now. We refuse to give up hope that God is going to bring him home like he promised. We are claiming that God’s bringing him home by October of this year. We know this will be a huge miracle, and there’s still lots that needs to happen. But we know God can and will do big things beyond our imagination. 

This picture is from our 3 year anniversary of meeting him- February 12. I can’t believe it’s been over 3 years already. We hope and pray that he had a great birthday today. We heard that all he wanted was pizza! 🙂


We have become very hopeful over the last few days.

We had our 3rd (and hopefully final) fingerprinting appointment on Friday.  The officer at the immigration office said that he has never seen anyone adopting have to get fingerprints more than 3 times.  That made us really happy and hopeful, even though it doesn’t necessarily mean that we won’t have to.  It has now become our tradition to get a picture made outside the fingerprinting office.  This time it was raining so it’s a close up!



Upon arriving home this same day, we read that the adoption law in Haiti has officially changed!!!  And guess what, we MEET the requirements now!  The new law is to be married 5 years and at least 30 years old.  Us not meeting the previous law isn’t what has been slowing us down, but we are PRAYING that we will speed through now.  We are also being thankful for all our delays over these last 3 years because we may have never made it through with the old law anyway.  The law was passed in August but still had to be signed by the President.  In Haiti, regarding adoptions, nothing signed by the President is “official” until it runs in the newspaper.  So the law was put in the newspaper on Friday, the same day as our fingerprints.  We think that was NO coincidence.  We have been needing some hope lately.  Here is a screenshot.  It says, Special Issue:  Reforming the Adoption Law.



Another thing to note that has given us great hope and joy, is another one of Mathieu’s friends will be coming HOME!!!!  Jon Luke is scheduled to be home NEXT Friday!!!  We are so very happy for his family and him.  We have all been through so much during these last few years, and I am just thrilled another child is no longer an orphan!

Regarding our process:  We are still waiting on the 3 documents to be redone.  (Same three from almost a year ago.)  Things take a little longer in Haiti!  It’s not as easy as going on-line to order a certified copy of your birth certificate, and it arrives in the mail a few days later like we do here in the US.  We are waiting on another signature to make them official.  A judge has to sign them, and unfortunately, a lot of them are on strike right now.  Pray with us that these get signed and we can MOVE to the next step.  We have been stuck for so so long.  It is easy for us to get frustrated that these 3 documents haven’t been completed before now, but we just go back to the change in the adoption law.  We truly feel God had us wait 3 years for this very reason.  So we are rejoicing and hopeful today!  

9 To Go

There were 13 children who God placed in our path at the beginning of our adoption of Mathieu.  We have grown to know their adoptive families and honestly couldn’t have gotten this far without them.  I feel like we are a team, and I am so happy to announce that 2 more of Mathieu’s friends came home a few weeks ago.  That leaves 9 children still waiting to come home.  Some other families have really made lots of progress, and we are so happy for them.  We pray for them and pray that we have some good news to share soon, too.

Here are sweet Ruth and Nahomie in their Red, White, and Blue!!!!


We don’t really have anything to update on our process.  Unfortunately, we have no great news, but really, we have no news at all.  All of our US paperwork with fingerprints are reaching expiration AGAIN.  I have sent an email to the Department of Homeland Security asking for an appointment to update our fingerprints before they expire, but we haven’t heard back from that.  I have no idea if everything going on with the government will slow any of their response down.  We are trying to get information from our attorney, but we haven’t heard anything on that either.  We really have no reason to believe this is ever going to happen, but God.  God told us to do this, and we are confident that He will complete it.  This doesn’t mean that everyday is easy.  We pray (and ask for your prayers) that God will give us Faith each day.  That He will give us encouragement and strength to keep fighting and pushing.  We are trying to wait patiently on Him.  It has become easy for us to totally disengage from the whole process completely.  Maybe it’s to shield our heart from the pain of Mathieu still not being here or maybe because we’re exhausted from all the paperwork, the runaround, the disappointments, and the lies.  It’s so easy for us to look at other’s adoption journey and say, “Oh yes, God is going to bring their child home.”  But somehow we let the enemy convince us that our process is different.  Maybe God really did forget about us.  Or maybe God never wanted this for us all along.  It is a constant struggle to have Faith that God is going to bring him home.  But 2 Timothy 2:13 says, “if we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself.”  We do believe His Word so we cannot wait until the day we can give great news!

Mathieu did have a minor accident a few weeks back.  He was jumping in to one of the cribs, and the bottom fell out.  He hit his face to the floor and knocked out his front two teeth.  We couldn’t remember if he had already lost those or not so at first we thought they were his permanent teeth.  Yikes!  But they were baby teeth, thankfully!


Here is his toothless smile!Image    

June Trips

We had great opportunities to visit Mathieu this past month.  Peyton went down at the first of the month to take our pastor and our mission’s coach to see Haiti and what’s going on down there.  We recently had a family, and close friends- Josh, Brittany, and Sharles, from our church to move to Haiti as long-term missionaries so it was a good time to see them and support their ministries there.  Peyton was able to spend a few days with Mathieu.

Then Peyton and I led a team of 12 down for a week at the end of June.  It was great for the three of us to be together again!  It had been over a year since that has happened.  Brittany has been working hard on teaching all the kids at Mathieu’s Home English.  I could tell a huge difference.  He can count to 10 in English and say other words too like “I’m hungry or I’m thirsty!”  We could tell such a huge difference, and it made it so much easier to bond and communicate.  We also were refreshed on our very basic Creole.  The parts we couldn’t understand, we had our good friend Flore to translate.  I had the privilege to help teach one of the English classes to the kids one day.  Mathieu was such a good listener and was taking notes.  You could tell he was really paying attention.  It made us so proud.    

No, unfortunately, we don’t have any updates on the actual adoption process.  There have been several people to say to us that they will help us.  They will see what they can do to speed things along.  In each situation the communication goes dim, and then we never hear from them again.  This has been our sign that for some reason God wants us to go this alone.  So here we are, trucking along a path that we’re not even sure we’re on.  The only thing we do know, is that if God wants Mathieu home, he’ll bring him home.  If that was never God’s intention for Mathieu to live here, then we will faithfully be his parents from here.  We are still a family no matter what.  While in Haiti, we studied Genesis 12 which is where God tells Abram to leave his country, his people, and his father’s household.  Abram obeys and leaves as God commanded.  But only a few verses away, Abram starts to doubt God and feels that he needs to take matters into his own hands when they enter Egypt.  Abram tells his wife to lie and say she is his sister so they won’t kill him.  God spares him in the end of the chapter.  We have found ourselves so many times doubting God in this process.  We were quick to obey and depend on God as we started the grueling adoption process, but now we sometimes feel we need to take matters into our own hands.  We want to pitch a fit and say God, we obeyed you on something that was never in “our plan” now why is it so hard?  We pray that God’s plan is for Mathieu to be here with us, but for now, we will be patient and wait which is just so hard.  It breaks our heart each time we have to leave him, each family hug we give as we all 3 cry, and each prayer where we beg God to bring him home.  We know this is not outside of God’s control, and he is teaching us through all of this.  May we never forget these lessons!