A Quiet Year

I know we have been quiet for the past year. Honestly, there hasn’t been anything to say but more lies, broken promises, and heartbreak. Just because we have been quiet doesn’t mean we weren’t still fighting everyday doing everything we knew to do to try to get Mathieu home. We were reaching out to anybody and everybody who said they could help with any kind of connection to Haiti. One person was recommended by two separate people, so we thought that had to be a good contact. We spoke almost daily back in the spring. We had a plan drawn out, and things were progressing along. Then after a few weeks, it was like she vanished. She, and her contacts in Haiti, stopped answering phone calls, texts, and emails. We have still yet to hear back from her. Again, we were left confused, heart-broken, and frustrated. We had been praying for two years for God to send us someone who would fight for us, work hard for us, and someone we could trust. Why wasn’t He answering our prayers?

I can’t remember exactly, but I think it was around July/August or maybe even September that I was honestly ready to quit. I was angry at God. Why would He call us to something that he wasn’t going to finish or even help us with? It made no sense to me. Yes, He has used our story to change our life and grow us closer to Him and to impact many others, but I was having a hard time thinking that’s where it would end. I heard Him clearly say Mathieu was going to be our son. Why did it look like that was not going to happen?

That same day, God gave me soft whispers and confirmations that He didn’t leave us, and His promises are still true. He did this through a friend I hadn’t spoken to in years sending me a message out of the blue that she felt God laying us on her heart to pray for us, so she did. He did this through songs- in particularly the song by Matthew West, Do Something. The lyrics go like this…”I shook my fist at Heaven and said, God, why don’t you do something? He said, I did. I created you. If not us, then who. If not me and you. Right now, it’s time for us to do something. If not now, then when will we see an end to all this pain. It’s not enough to do nothing. It’s time for us to do something.” And He did this by showing me countless adoptive parents who went to Haiti to fight for their children and won. That was it. Our mission had started.

We figured out the soonest time we could go to Haiti with our work schedules, booked our trip for the first week in November, and started planning it out. We had NO idea what we were going to Haiti for. Yeah, we were fighting for Mathieu, but we had no idea what we were going to be able to do to make a difference. We don’t know the process, we don’t speak the language, and our lawyer is corrupt and had a stronghold over us. We just knew we were going. The month of October I spent talking to anyone who would hear me cry. Posting pleas on an adoption group on Facebook. Please, anyone. Help us. It got to a point where it was hard to keep straight who all I had spoken to and the next step that was to be taken with them. There was no way possible we were going to be able to meet with all these people I had spoken to while we were in Haiti, so our prayers began to be, God, show us who you want us to work with and weed out all the people who aren’t going to be able to give us help. (We had no time to waste on any path that was going to be unfruitful. A week is not a very long time to get things accomplished in Haiti.)

Before we left for Haiti, we had a room full of about 25 Smyrna friends come and pray for us and over us for this trip.photo We knew this trip could be very powerful if God showed up, and we so longed for His presence and mercies on this trip.

We also kept our family, closest friends (who feel like family), and supporters up-to-date with everything that was going on in Haiti via email so they could continue to pray. We know there were at least 60 people praying for us for specific details each day. We even had our trip covered in prayer for 24 hours a day. It was so unbelievable and humbling to see so many people care about us so much and willing to devote an hour a day to pray for us. Some of them really late at night and some really early in the morning.

The prayers worked. The whole week was miracle after miracle from God and answered prayers and more answered prayers. In the end, we were able to get our paperwork back from our corrupt attorney and able to find a real, true, legit lawyer to fight for us. God did answer our prayers that we had been praying for the past two years. It wasn’t in our timing or how we expected it to be, but He did answer them.

Our new attorney has taken over our file and is working hard on it. There are three original documents in our file that are missing (we only have the copies), and they actually need to be corrected also. She is working on those things now. We are waiting to get the first 2 documents corrected so that she can then work on the 3rd. We appreciate your prayers specifically for these documents to be corrected so that we can move forward.

We will go on Tuesday of next week to have our fingerprints taken again, for the 4th time. We are believing this is our year and our last time to get fingerprinted. Thank you all for your support. From your prayers, to helping us fundraise and buying our T-shirts and bracelets many years ago, to asking about the process, for those who have gone to Haiti and loved on Mathieu, and everything in between. We couldn’t have gotten through this without you.

Here are some pictures from our trip. At the all famous IBESR and with Mathieu and our translator, Robinson who was a HUGE advocate for us during the week.

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2 responses to “A Quiet Year

  1. So glad you to hear the good news! You have insprired me to always hang tough and be patient with yourself, and God. Before you know it, Mathieu will be bouncing all over the place, bringing extra smiles and laughter to the home. Congratulation (in advance) on Mathieu coming in home!

  2. Hello, your story resonated exactly what my family is experiencing. We just returned from our 3rd trip to Haiti to see our kids, my husband’s 5th trip. We have three bio kids ages 14, 12, and 10. We returned heartbroken and frustrated with the adoption process. We are hoping, trusting and praying for a miracle. For God to make the impossible possible. We pray He is writing our story and our Haitian kids story and that He will make us a forever family. Our hearts are also in Haiti. We are determined and not giving up and will turn over every stone possible to bring our kids home. I would love to chat and see if you have any advice in your experiences. We are praying for the Lord’s will and His timing, but it is so hard waiting. If you are interested, please contact me. Thank you and many blessings to you all.

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